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2:55 PM
Memories..
a few days after our 5 months together, out of a sudden, he went and buy an engagement ring.. he been looking high and low for this ring.. the clarity, cutting and color of the diamond.. finally, he settled down with this ring from Gold Heart.. a celestia Diamond ring.. thou it is 0.2 carat (est.) but it cost him a bomb..
it was a big surprise to that girl of course.. being together for only 5 months plus.. but the girl gradually accepted the proposal.. deep in her heart, she knew he is the 1.. the 1 that will walk the path together till the end of their life..
the mother and brother questioning why did he make such a decision as they were together so recent yet they going to step into their next phase of life so soon?
thou they tot tat both of them are kidding, yet they move on to plan their wedding 8 months after the engagement..
slowly, they gathered info on the wedding dinner, bridal package, etc.. they have targetted the wedding date and make all arrangement..
as the days drew closer, both of them are getting more anxious and excited.. they have been seeing each other everyday and now, they are going to stay with each other soon..
wondering the days before they sleep, the last person they saw will be each other.. and when they woke up, the first person they see will be each other.. can't wait til the days come..
is less than a year to the wedding date.. they are doing the count down everyday.. gonna try on the wedding gown in june.. so excited.. hehe.. Oct / Nov to take wedding photo.. planning the honeymoon places, etc.. time flies.. tat's wad i can say..
Always by your side SnOwY
9:28 AM
For people who are married, going to be married and also those who are in a relationship or going to have 1...
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle.
In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.
You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "FALLING" in love...
Because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."
Think about the imagery of that expression.
It implies that you were just standing there;
doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.
It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),
touch is not always welcome (when it happens),
and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship,
but if you think about your marriage,
you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking,
"Did I marry the right person?"
And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had,
you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when marriages breakdown.
People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.
It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "FIND" LASTING love.
You have to "make" it day in and day out.
That's why we have the expression "THE LABOUR OF LOVE."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity),
There are also laws for relationships.
Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger,
certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...
you can "MAKE" love.
Love in marriage is indeed a "DECISION"... Not just a feeling..
Always by your side SnOwY
2:06 PM
I was reading my mails and came across this message..
Love is not 2 forget but 2 forgive, not 2 see but 2 understand,
not 2 hear but 2 listen, Not 2 let go but 2 HOLD ON !!!!
Don't ever leave the one you love for the one you like,
Because the one you like will leave you for the one they love.
Find a guy, who calls you beautiful instead of hot.
Who calls you back when you hang up on him.
Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.
Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead.
Who wants to show the world YOU when you are in your sweats.
Who holds your hand in front of his friends.
Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he Cares about you and how lucky he is to have you.
Wait for the one who turns to his friends and says, '...that's her.'
After reading this passage, who is the 1st person appear in your mind? How about me?
The first person who appears in my mind is YOU! My husband to be.. Solomon Peterson Teo.. As he is the 1 who have done all the above and many more.. I will learn to hold on to our relationship no matter how fiercely we argue or how difficult our rs is going through.. I will learn not 2 see but 2 understand.. I will learn not 2 hear but 2 listen.. I will learn more.. This is my promise to you.. :) always be patience with me ok?
We have been together for 1 year 4 months.. It seem time past so fast.. in less than a year, we going to get married.. Am really excited about it.. There are so many happy memories we have and there will be more coming along the way and of course after we can married, it will be every moment..
Thank you for always being so patience with me even every time I hang up your calls, I walk away, I wanted to end the rs, I push you away yet you have been patiently waiting for me to cool down, give in to me, call me back, hold me tightly.. Thank you for the love you have for me.. It is just so wonderful to have you..
Thank you Lord for bringing us together.. YOU are our heavenly father who sacrifice your beloved son for us.. Who plans everything and takes care of the things that we leave it in your hand.. We will always gives You the praise and thanks.. Labels: 111 Posts.. haha..
Always by your side SnOwY
3:44 AM
it been real long time since i last blog.. it seem like whenever i feel upset, i will turn to you.. it's because you listen to all my complaints and nonsense.. some1 so close to you and about to get married telling you the world don't revolve around you.. if you love that some1 and your world don't revolve around that person, are you really in love? all along i tot that's wad love is all about.. maybe am wrong.. very wrong..
communication breakdown? is he my Mr. Right? so confuse.. who to assure me? am so lost.. so upset.. talking to you brings slight comfort to my heart..
dear Lord, i thought that was what you have plan for me. the man of my life, to assure me, to comfort me, to listen, to spend the rest of my life with.. but is he the man you really want me to marry to? but why things is turning sour.. things is not working out.. it seem like everything is wrong.. please don't let me regret.. already feel insecure for marriage and when things happen, i will choose to believe man are untrusty.. not worth to trust them or place my future on them, they will just walk out your life at any point of time when they think they have done enough and can't do anything else more.. this is the so call Love to them.. dear Lord, ur uncondition love to the mankind is so perfect that no love in the world can even come close to it.. maybe to have your love is more than enough but man are too greedy to look for more love.. dear Lord, i leave my future in your hand.. i know that i don't deserve your love but have pity on me. thank you Lord for the kindness in you for me..
i always assume.. i should just let go.. i should let go of the things that doesn't belong to me in the first place.. he doesn't belong to me.. i should let go and i will learn to let go.. shouldn't clinch on to the things that don't belong to me.. I GIVE UP! I GIVE UP OF EVERYTHING!
Always by your side SnOwY
When your are down please remember i m always there for you*
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